Before heading to a divorce, the first step that many couples take is to go to marital counseling. They want to see if it will help their current relationship before going through the entire process of legally splitting up.
There are many specific questions that each couple may ask themselves, depending on their unique situation. Here are a few examples that you may want to consider: as you head into marital counseling:
- Q: Is it possible for the marriage to be revived? The answer may depend on what has happened. Did your spouse do something that is a deal-breaker for you, or do you just feel like you have drifted apart over time?
- Q: Can you get past the events that led you to divorce? A common example is when one person had an affair. If they apologize, some people are able to move on and stay married. For others, the trust is gone in the relationship and they know they have to end it.
- Q: Are you simply lacking desire? People often say that they’re just not in love anymore. Think about why. Have you both fundamentally changed so much that the relationship doesn’t work? Or are you just so busy with kids and work that your desire seems to have faded right now?
As you can see, the key is to think about your unique relationship, what you want out of counseling and your marriage. The answers to the above questions are not going to be the same for everyone, and that’s fine. There are no right or wrong answers. If you do decide to get divorced, just be sure you know what options you have to protect your legal rights.